WEDDING ETIQUETTE SERIES: TO EMAIL OR NOT

Wednesday, July 06, 2016

You’re getting married and it’s time to start planning. There are save-the-date cards, shower invitations, engagement party invitations and wedding invitations. So in today’s high tech world, do you really need to mail a card? Should you email instead?
 
Just because you can send an email doesn’t mean it’s a good idea. The more formal an invitation, the less likely that an email will suffice. Generally, if you are comfortable extending the invitation over the phone, then email is acceptable. Email is not the place for highly personal or delicate communications. These are best handled in person. Don’t forget that emails are not private. Never put anything in an email that you are not willing to have the whole world read.
 

Not to Email

Wedding invitations

Wedding invitations are personal and should be printed. There are exceptions but usually print is best.

Thank you notes

A handwritten note should be sent for every gift you receive. You can send an email update if you are behind and want to let the recipient know their gift was received. Make sure and let them know a handwritten note will follow. Email shouldn’t replace the handwritten thank you.

Personal Issues

For personal or difficult issues, email is not a good idea. Any compromise or conflict is best to discuss in person or by phone.

No Surprises

Group emails are convenient, but the details should be worked out first. You don’t want to surprise anyone with the specifics of your event.

To Email

Save-the-Date

Email is a great way to send a casual note to friends and family asking them to save the date.

Wedding invitation replies

You can give your guests the option of replying by email. Simply add a sentence at the bottom of your printed response card. This is particularly appropriate with last minute and informal weddings.

Wedding announcements

Wedding announcements usually go to friends and family who are not on the guest list. Most couples prefer printed announcements, but email is acceptable.

Invitations to parties

Invitations to informal or casual engagement parties, bridal showers, and other pre-wedding get-togethers are usually mailed. Email can be acceptable if you’re planning an informal affair but never a group email. Each email should be sent to an individual.

Information on lodging, etc.

Maps and directions for out-of-town guests are usually included in the formal invitation. Other information, like hotels, restaurants and points of interest, can be sent in an email. Group email is acceptable for sending this information. You can also be post this information on your wedding web site, if you have one.
 
 
If you have updates, email can be a great way to keep your family informed. Always use common sense and consideration. Don’t overload the entire guest list with daily news flashes and don’t share overly personal details that are best saved for your closest friends.
 
 
Mr Burch is always available to assist you in your wedding plans. Contact us to make your wedding and reception an event to remember.

WEDDING ETIQUETTE SERIES

Wednesday, July 06, 2016

Mr Burch Formal Wear wants to be your partner for you big day and help make your event special.  Please join us as we explore the world of wedding etiquette.  There is so much to consider from the engagement to the honeymoon, we’re going to take a close look at each step in this on-going series.

Celebrating The Engagement

Announcing the news
It’s important to consider strategy when announcing your big news.  If either of you have children already, they should be the first to know.  It might also be a good idea to tell the kids without your future spouse so they can have a chance to react privately with you first. For the rest of the family, timing is key.  You might announce the news at a family party so you can let everyone know at the same time.  If the spotlight isn’t your style, then your closest family should hear the news first. Ask them to keep it to themselves for a few days. Others may be hurt if they hear the news from someone else. 

Jim Little Photography 1

Selecting a date and guests
Parents of the bride, then groom are usually the first to be given the option of hosting an engagement party. Normally, both don’t unless they live very far from each other. The idea is that the party happens closer to the engagement than to the wedding.   Everyone invited to any pre-wedding celebration like a shower, engagement or bachelorette party, must also be invited to the wedding.   Choose wisely.  You can always invite more people to the wedding.

Having a great time
Engagement parties are one of the few events the couple doesn’t have a common American tradition to look to. They are common in some places, and unheard of in others. The good news is you have the chance to create your own style of event that will be meaningful to you. Many different styles and settings are acceptable for an engagement party like a catered dinner, casual brunch, or picnic in the park.   Just choose the type of celebration you’d most enjoy. The party itself has no requirements.  However, an announcement and toast are usually given by the father of the bride. Guests may or may not bring presents.  If you’re unsure, check with your host.  Engagement gifts are usually small, like two champagne flutes and a bottle of champagne. The goal is to celebrate your joy with a party that reflects your style.

 JIm Little Photography 2

 

Please contact Mr. Burch Formal Wear at (205) 252-3600 if we can assist.  You plan the party and we’ll bring the fashion.